When couples who are dating begin to examine their relationships more closely, especially after they’ve been dating a while, sometimes one person has a different realization than the other. This is the partner in the relationship who recognizes that while there are many things they admire about the other person; they can no longer see a future with them. It’s at this juncture that they might think it’s better to breakup. So, this person takes the steps to get it over and done with. The intention to abruptly end things may be a good one. The partner initiating the breakup doesn’t want to continue wasting each other’s time and resources and doesn’t want to deepen an emotional attachment that will only hurt more if things continue. However well-intentioned, the sting of an abrupt breakup can be devastating. There’s no question that in situations like these, one person is likely to be much more hurt than the other.
Life has a way of throwing curve balls at us when we least expect it. A woman who’s on the receiving end of a breakup like this might begin to internalize the hurt. She might do so in ways that make her fearful of loving again, and this, more than anything else, is what we want to avoid. 1John 4:18(NLT) tells us, “Such love has no fear, because perfect love expels all fear. If we are afraid, it is for fear of punishment, and this shows that we have not fully experienced his perfect love.” Many people think of fear only in the context of a response to eminent danger. In terms of our innate reactions of preserving our safety, fear can be viewed as an appropriate response mechanism, but this isn’t the fear that 1John 4:18 is pointing to. This verse is teaching us about the kind of fear that is the exact opposite of faith. Fear in the spiritual sense is rooted in the practice of doubting God’s Word, power, promises, and love.
It is impossible to heal when you’re bitter or cynical about how you’ve been treated and rejected. Like me, I’m sure you’ve seen women that have become angry and want revenge. These are all responses of fear. They won’t help us to move to a higher place, in fact, just the opposite is true. Negativity pulls us down to the level of the devil who created it. This will only hurt us even more.
1John 4:8(NLT) teaches us, “But anyone who does not love does not know God, for God is love.” Love is not only who God is, love is what He does. He is our Creator, and through Him and the example of Jesus Christ, we learn to love in the way that our Lord and Savior does. A person will never, ever be at a disadvantage from demonstrating God’s love. When we’ve been rejected by someone that we thought was going to reciprocate our love and support, we must turn to God’s love, not to satan’s hate and darkness. We must love God and love ourselves enough to trust that God will never leave or forsake us. Deuteronomy 7:9(NLT) declares, “Understand, therefore, that the LORD your God is indeed God. He is the faithful God who keeps his covenant for a thousand generations and lavishes his unfailing love on those who love him and obey his commands.”
Love is a commitment, and when we get knocked down, we must be committed to hold tightly to God’s love. We must also see the person’s rejection of us as a call-to-action to rise up to a greater level of God’s love. The Lord Jesus Christ is perfecting you, polishing you like gold for God’s divine purpose. Why be angry, dejected, and sad because someone didn’t have an awareness of your destiny? This person isn’t for you. Bless them in the name of Jesus Christ, wipe the dust off your shoulders, and let them be on their way. Don’t be the woman with the wounded heart. Be the woman that is healed and better than ever! Trust God for treasures with your name on them, and pray that in this season, He teaches you to love through His strength and wisdom so that you are prepared for the blessing that is sure to come. ■
Scripture quotations marked (NLT) are taken from the Holy Bible, New Living Translation, copyright © 1996. Used by permission of Tyndale House Publishers, Inc., Wheaton, Illinois 60189. All rights reserved.
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